We sit on the diwan (sofa-cum-bed—the most versatile Indian furniture ever invented), passing one plate of pakoras between five people. No one uses a fork. No one uses a napkin. We just exist, messily, together. Dinner is done—usually roti-sabzi or leftover biryani from Sunday. Now comes the nightly civil war: The TV Remote.

This is when the stories happen. My father reads the newspaper aloud (a habit we hate but secretly love). My brother talks about his new crush. Amma tells us about the neighbor’s daughter who got engaged to a boy from "an IT background, very nice family."

We show it by forcing you to eat a fourth roti . We show it by asking annoying questions about your marriage prospects. We show it by never letting you carry a burden alone.

If you’ve never lived in an Indian joint family, you might think our life is pure chaos. And you wouldn't be entirely wrong. But within this beautiful chaos lies a rhythm that holds us together like the dhaga (thread) on a rakhi .

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It is loud. It is chaotic. It is overwhelming.

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